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30 Important Things You Should Do As a Father
by Mark Brandenberg

In the chaos of modern life, it's easy to lose sight of many of the important things you can do as a father.

Here's a list of some of the more important ones:

1. Leave something for them - a letter to them, some reflections on their childhood

2. Understand family systems

3. Tell them your stories

4. Have rituals in your family

5. Teach them your values

6. Avoid the bad mistakes - anger is often a culprit

7. Know the stages of your child's growth

8. Be playful with them, even when they're older

9. Know your child's life intimately

10. Treat your wife very well

11. Be physical with them - hugs, wrestle

12. Do nothing with them

13. Know the fundamental errors we make with boys and girls

14. Take care of your life

15. Get them involved in activities

16. Be accepting of all of them

17. Make connections - family and friends

18. Yes, tell them you love them

19. Learn how to process events

20. Teach them how to do one thing really well

21. Push them to do things, but gently and at their pace

22. Notice the beauty in life, closely

23. Teach them they're not alone - worship

24. Understand that they're going to have big emotions

25. Be involved in their schoolwork

26. Listen, don't preach - they'll come to you

27. Learn the art of closing your mouth

28. Teach them about what you do

29. Have them do chores

30. See them as great, always. 

Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches men to be better fathers and husbands. He is the author of "25 Secrets of Emotionally Intelligent Fathers"
"Helping Men in Their Important Relationships"



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(c) 2008 Carl Caton

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