leave a legacy


Fathers and Small Things
by Mark Brandenburg 
I was packed and ready to leave for my two day trip. My mind had been consumed with work and with many of the small details of getting ready to go.  <more...>

A Father’s Lead, a Daughter’s Vision
by Adrienne Carlson
I consider my greatest blessing in life to be the fact that I have wonderful parents, people who have nurtured and supported me throughout my life. If mom was the one who went out of her way to make sure we kids were loved and pampered without being spoilt, dad played a stellar role in helping me become an independent and responsible adult. He <more...>

Daddy-Daughter Disconnect
by Heather Helton
Fathers, this writing is on behalf of your daughters who need you desperately. These words are not meant to blame, hurt, or point fingers, but to rattle you into responsiveness, to shake you into action. We hurting daughters are a national dilemma. You won't hear about us on the six o'clock news, but we are here. <more...>

How to Give Your Child A Priceless Legacy
By Dad David
In today’s world of microwave speed, channel surfing and drive-through everything’s (including weddings), words like “traditions”, “family roots”, and “legacy” seem to fit more comfortably in a discussion of times gone by.  <more...>

Memories of a Father 
It was a hot, muggy, summer evening.  I had spent time at a neighbor’s house, and I was returning home. As soon as I opened the door, I could sense something. My brothers and sister were talking in excited tones, and everyone had a “wind-blown” look. <more...>

Ten Ways to Avoid Parental Arguing
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
As soon as my wife said it, I could feel the tension.  My “trigger point” had been hit, and an argument was waiting to happen.<more...>

Father-Daughter Dates
by Dionna Sanchez
I have a neighbor girl who goes on dates with her dad. When I first heard this I thought, "What a wonderful idea!" She shared with me how special these times with her dad were. He would call her up from work and ask her if she had any plans for the evening. Sometimes they would go to a movie or out to dinner. Sometimes they'd just grab dessert somewhere.  <more...>

30 Important Things You Should Do As a Father
by Mark Brandenberg
In the chaos of modern life, it's easy to lose sight of many of the important things you can do as a father. Here's a list of some of the more important ones:

Ten Ways to Get Your Kids to Talk to You
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
Parents can often be frustrated by their kids’ unwillingness to share their lives with them. Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, there will be times when it’s difficult to “break through” and find out what‘s really going on. <more...>

Important Conversations with your Kids
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC,
I lay down on my six-year-old son’s bed the other night before he went to sleep.  It’s a time when we have some of our most interesting and precious talks. This evening, I was preoccupied with other thoughts. While lying next to him, my mind was a million miles away.  <more...>

Dads, Let Us Create A Refuge Of Grace For Our Children
by Lee Wise
Let us as fathers... Pursue the Lord with all our hearts so our children may be challenged by the potential of loving the God we pursue and pursuing the God we know. <more...>

A Fathers New Year
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
It is a time in our history when it’s increasingly difficult to feel optimistic about the state of the world. And it’s a time of the year when we are flooded by the memories of the years past, and by the hope of a better year to come. <more...>

Dad, Go Ahead and Cry 
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC 
She slipped her small, smooth eight-year-old hand into mine. Her face was lit up with joy. And as my daughter took my hand and moved closer to me, I lost control of my emotions. <more...>

Kids, Rudeness, and Teaching Moments
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
“Here’s your water bottle, James!”  The eight-year-old snatched the bottle hard out of his mother’s hand, and said, “Give me that!” A chorus of nervous laughter followed from the parents nearby, including the boy’s mother. <more...>

Never Alone
by Brenda Henry
Chaos spilled from every classroom and forced its way into the hallway where I stood cowering beside the drinking fountain. Gigantic eighth graders shoved their way past my six-year-old frame, leaving the <more...>

My Daddy Is Good
by Tracie Peterson
I sat in the airport the other day waiting for a connecting flight home. I was tired, but the trip had been a real blessing, and so it was a good tired. The kind that comes from a sense of deep satisfaction. <more...>

Fathers, Anger, and Breaking Barriers
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC 
“What are you thinking?” I said. “Don’t you remember what I just told you?”  I had just avoided a fish hook, swinging perilously close to my eye. <more...>

A Fathers Day Gift--Touch
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
My five-year-old son and I were finishing up a dinner at a small restaurant recently. Nearby, a father and his teenage son embraced as they got up from their table. “Isn’t it nice that that man and his son hugged?” I asked him. <more...>

Loving your Child, Setting Them Free
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
Our son stood up and left us. We watched as he got up from his seat in our pew, shuffled past us, and joined the other young boys and girls walking the children's service, a religious education class for grade-schoolers. His face showed a mix of fear and excitement, and he stayed close to his sister as he moved down the aisle. As a first-grader, he was now eligible to go, but this was the first time he’d decided to join the others. <more...>

Annoyed, Impatient Dads 
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC 
“Guys, get out of the mud! How many times do I have to tell you?”  The words spilled out of my mouth. I felt myself re-creating the same words my parents had said to me so many times in the past, and I felt powerless to change my kids’ actions. An alarming thought came to me, one that comes to most fathers at some <more...>

How a Father Became One of His Teenage Daughter's Best Friends
by V. Michael Santoro
It may seem impossible to believe, but today’s teens do want to consider their parents as friends, even though they think we could never understand the realities of their world. They are also interested in what it was like being a teenager during the Stone Age. Life without cell phones or the Internet must have been unimaginable! <more...>

Build Character Now! Practical Tools for Busy Parents
by Jean Tracy
Character is in crisis. Everyday your children see their sports heroes, movie stars, and music idols acting badly. How can you help your children become the people they were meant to be? As a busy parent, this article offers you an excellent method for building character in your children and bonding with them too.

Daughters, Dads And Listening
by Lee Wise
"Thanks, dad. Thanks for listening. I always knew I could come to you."  Last month a strange and not entirely unexpected guest made his way into my life. <more...>

Dads, Life, and Death 
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC 
When he looked at me, it was clear my father wasn't sure who I was. And as I looked back at him, I wasn't sure who he was, either. <more...>

Fathers Tell Your Stories!
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
I must admit to having a fear that I believe I share with many fathers. I fear that I will some day be insignificant to my children. It's not as though they'll completely forget who I am; it's that what I stand for and what I believe in won't be a significant part of their lives. <more...>

Can Men Join Their Family?
by Mark Brandenburg
I needed a screwdriver. Passing the bag of recycled cans on the steps, I went straight to the tool shed in the garage and claimed my screwdriver. “Why would you walk right by this bag of cans and not take it out to the garage?” my wife shrieked.  <more...>

I'm a Father, Doesn't Anyone Care?
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
The snow was getting heavier with each lift of the shovel. My back ached, and I was chilled to the bone.  I’d had enough for one day. <more...>

Toward Compassion: 
Understanding Today's Pressures on a Father

by Susie Cortright
We hear a lot about the Supermom Syndrome but rarely about our Superdads.  We place higher expectations on fathers in today's society than ever before.  Unlike previous generations, dads today are expected to take a proactive role in caring for the children physically as well as financially.  <more...>

Making Promises to Your Kids 
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, 
I was bringing my kids home from a long day of play one summer night not long ago. It was a difficult ride home, and they were tired, hungry, and whiny. I wanted to get them home as fast as I could. <more...>

Ten Ways to Raise Responsible Kids
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
We’d all like our kids to develop into responsible people.  How can we help to ensure that our kids learn the lessons  of responsibility? Here are some ideas.  1. Start them with tasks when they’re young <more...>

How Can I Teach My Child To Be Responsible?
by Barb Desmarais
Most of us when asked what we want our children to become, we include 'responsible' among other things such as happy, fulfilled and caring. We want our children to learn to make wise choices, be responsible for their actions and live responsibly. <more...>

Daddies and Slippery Socks: A Salute to Fathers
by Susie Cortright
There's just something about a daddy.  If mom is sustained, lasting light, dad is a spark. It's certainly true in my family, where the men simply produce a different kind of energy. Dads and Grandpas are wonderfully familiar but, at the same time, exotic. <more...>

A Fathering Moment to Remember
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
It was a fathering moment to remember.  My 8 year-old daughter and I were playing around on the driveway when I popped the question. “Do you want to try your two wheeler bike?” “Sure,” she said, “I’ll go get it.” <more...>

Extend Your Influence Without Shortening Your Life
by Lee Wise
Let me give you an influence principle I have observed over the years.  REPEAT AFTER LEE... "Maximum impact Minimal touch"  In a couple of seconds I'm going to lead you through a short exercise.  <more...>

Create Your Own Positive Memories Legacy
Working Hard At Making A Lasting Impression On Your World 
© Lee Wise 2003 All rights reserved 

All of us have the potential of leaving a set of positive memories in the minds and hearts of people. I would love to know that the memories people have of me will be a blessing to them instead of a burden. <more...>

How can a smelly, hissing goose teach you to be a better parent? Find out!
by Michelle Shelton

In the 1990’s we lived on a farm in Iowa. Since I grew up in the country, I thought I knew everything there was to know about country living. Imagine my surprise at learning something life changing from a couple of geese! <more...>

Father's Day Thoughts On Being A Dad
by Lee Wise
What you will read in the next five to eight minutes will
not qualify as one of the top ten professionally written
articles of the year: guaranteed.  <more...>

When is Fathers Day?
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC
I’d had about as much as I could handle for one day.
My computer was frozen, I was tired from a weekend with too little sleep, and I was working in a yard that would soon need a scythe to manage it. End-of-the-year school activities were crowding an already crowded schedule, and there seemed like no time to relax. <more...>

How to Guarantee Your Failure as a Parent
by Don Mondell
One day, the Devil laid out his gleaming, razor-edge tools upon a worn and ancient wooden table. He announced a "fire" sale and <more...>






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